Do you want to create an emotionally stable life together and adopt a dog or nah.
While labels and chosen identities are important, geek culture also has created spaces for things that aren’t quite so neatly labeled. Are you a lesbian who loves thinking about fictional boys kissing? There’s plenty of room in fan culture for that. An asexual who loves smutty doujinshi? You’re not alone. A LARPer who keeps up your character into the bedroom? A fanfic reader whose primary sex education came to you labeled ‘lemon’? A member of a journaling site who’s role-played sex with an avatar that doesn’t match your gender, preferences, body parts, or even species? A genderqueer fanartist who’s drawn trans* versions of your favorite characters? A cosplayer who likes more private photoshoots? A kinky sub who sorted out your own desires after reading a lot of indie porn comics? An otherwise mild-mannered member of society who’d really like to get molested by a tentacle monster? A confused bisexual who met your wife in college when you wrote her an email praising the pornographic Xenogears RP logs on her website?
…Okay, maybe that last one’s just me. But there are plenty of all those others out there and more besides, learning by doing… and by getting done. And it’s those experiences that inspired, and will often feature in, this column.